Divorce forces us to reevaluate ourselves. Many people who have been divorced struggle to understand what happened. Whether the divorce was something that suddenly took place or went for months, even years, the frustration, anger, and rejection are feelings that must be explored and put to rest. Unresolved issues often lead to projection (a person is blamed for the mistakes of another), which can destroy new relationships. Some individuals will see their new spouse do something that reminds them of a behavior that their ex-spouse did, and it will trigger a reaction sequence. This trigger may cause the person to put up a wall or get upset. Ironically, the new spouse will have no idea what they’ve done wrong, they will only know that their new partner is acting strangely and often with hostility.

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