One of the things that improved my second marriage was when I stopped treating my husband as if he was always wrong.  He did things so completely different than I did.  I mean, spending hours to make a buying decision.  What a waste of time!  Our marriage improved when I stopped looking at him as a time waster, but rather as someone who was being very thorough in his decisions—someone that I could learn and benefit from by not having to learn the hard way due to hasty decisions.

          The same goes with applying these principles to a broader spectrum, looking at all others who do things differently than me—what can I learn from them?  How can their way benefit me?   These simple questions have helped me to rise above my own stuff and truly see these people in a different light—a more correct light.  When I do this I see the snobbishness of my faulty assumptions. 

          Maybe you have learned how to have that kind of respect for others a long time ago.  Maybe you are way beyond that skill.  If you are, what other area can you improve in?  How can you deepen your respect for others? 

          One of the best ways is to stand by a person through difficult times and see the greatness that shines forth as they cope with the situation.  Or to look at the beauty that is displayed in something they do.  If you look hard enough there is always something that you can respect.

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