How do you recover from divorce?
On the day of my wedding, the howling wind woke me hours before the alarm. My sleep had been restless. Kicking the blanket off, I rose to catch a glimpse of the dark sky. Taking a deep breath, I parted my drapes to admire the last sparkle of stars before the sunlight disguised them from view.
That day I was taking steps in my life’s journey that would permanently change my future. Dramatic changes were before me, and I could hardly wait to start.
Unlike many, I was not nervous on my wedding day. I had no need to be. I was marrying a man who loved me so much he couldn’t hide his desire to make me his wife. We had met at a dance a mere two and a half months earlier and fell instantly in love. We just clicked. It felt as if I had gone home, which I thought at the time was a good thing. When he proposed, I was surprised that it came so soon, but knew from his pleading eyes that to say, “No,” would crush him. I couldn’t do that to him. As I hesitated, he described what our future would be like. We would develop our art, have beautiful children who would love us, and we would be happy. I believed him. Like most people, the thought that we would divorce never crossed my mind. Our love was strong, our commitment firm. Nothing would come between us.
The statistics that one out of every two couples divorce never penetrated my thoughts that early May morning as I looked out the window at the sky, thinking about my upcoming wedding. Yet thirteen years later, I received the much anticipated phone call from my lawyer. “Congratulations, you’re officially divorced.”
After hanging up the phone, I wondered, “Now what?” What do I do since my dream has been shattered into a million pieces? How was I going to go on? What would it to take put one foot in front of the other? How would I glue myself back together so I could dream, smile, laugh, and embrace life? It seemed, at the beginning, impossible to be happy again, to feel alive, and okay.
How would I glue myself back together so I could dream, smile, laugh, and embrace life?
I’d love to hear how other were able to heal.
I would never have imagined that I would be one of those women who would get a divorce! In the small community that I live , divorce was thought of as a sin, a peculiar situation no matter who was to blame for it. I had a very difficult time-it was years ago- and at first I thought I wouldn’t survive. I coped with depression and moods and the only thing that helped me get out of it was Art. Yes, my hobby turned out to be my savior. I used to paint day and night, I even stayed all night up drawing and painting. I used to drive o the countryside and sketched for hours and eventually I created so many paintings that I started selling them to local people. Then I set up a Gallery. Two years later I was fine and dated again. So, the solution is to have a new challenge, to do something you like and concentrate on this, leaving out all negative thoughts. As the time goes by you will find you become positive and enjoy life again.
Lia
Lia,
I understand your shock at first for being divorce. I also agree with you that being creative can be a great way to rise above all the grief. It is amaze that you could turn it into a success. Do you still have the Gallery? Do you have website where we can see your art? Thanks for being an inspiration.
Lisa
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