What to Look for in A Mentor

Monday, 22nd September 2014

mentorOn the path to success, many people want to go faster, further, and succeed with fewer headaches. One way to reach success quicker in your journey to master a skill or become more efficient, is to get a really good mentor on your team.

What does a good mentor look like?

If you are just starting out, a good mentor looks like someone that can meet you where you are at and stretch you to the next level just enough that you are growing but not so much that you begin to panic. Growth is sometimes a challenge for the individual who is at the beginning level. It takes a lot of patience for even accomplished people when they are being mentored.

The advantage for the mentor to coach someone through these beginning stages is that they get to cover the principles of building a strong foundation over and over, and that information will sink in on an unconscious level. Covering the small infinite details and principles of a craft will only enhance knowledge in certain areas.

Positive Mindsets Exist

A good mentor looks at the student’s work and knows how to point out the positive and what they are doing right just as much as they point out what isn’t working. They balance the positive and the negative so that the student is motivated to keep moving forward and trying.

The interaction of the mentor and the person being coached is critical. Is the mentor positive and inspiring, or does the mentor motivate through fear, put downs, or shame? What style works best for you?

The Blessing of Hard

When some part of a craft is exceptionally difficult, it is that much more of a benefit to have a mentor that will help the student stay on task and keep working on the skill, until eventually the student is able to successfully accomplish what he/she set out to do. Some of the hidden benefits of sticking to it are that the student can penetrate the depth of the practice. If something comes too easy, it is common to overlook some principle that could be learned when a deep concentration is put in place.

Having a mentor to build your practice and skill can help cut years off your learning curve, but finding the right one is important to your overall experience and keeping you properly motivated to move forward.

What’s Your Business Saboteur Saying Today?

Monday, 8th July 2013

What’s Your Business Saboteur Saying Today?

Ever have a sneaky feeling that just maybe you are sabotaging yourself, but you weren’t quite sure how you were doing it? You look at your business and you are always just about to get “there” but you never quite make it?

How do you find out if you are really working against yourself and more importantly how do you stop doing it?

First off, what you do is invite your saboteur to come have a conversation with you. You ask him or her what he or she is like and you get your saboteur real comfortable talking. After they have talked for a while and tell you how they are and how they show up in your life, you ask him or her the sneaky question. You ask him or her what he or she wants.

When you have made it comfortable for him or her and get him or her talking, it will have a lot to say about this. After you hear him or her out then you can start thanking them for protecting you. Then it is time to tell them that you appreciate what they are trying to do and that you will keep it in mind, but right now you need to move forward.

Most often he or she will listen to you. Does this sound crazy? Will your saboteur not talk to you by yourself?


Small Changes Matter in Business

Monday, 20th May 2013

Small Changes Matter in Business

Small changes make a huge impact over time. A little introspection on how you are showing up can save you years of headaches.

Want more guidance and instruction on how to save yourself from the headaches? Get my 12 Secrets for Rapid Business Results free to help you find the possible!

Business Coaching: Are you staying “busy”?

Thursday, 25th April 2013

Business Coaching: Are you staying “busy”?

To grow your business it is rudimentary for you to know the difference between what action you take that causes growth–puts money in your bank account– and what actions are not so important busy work.

To determine this answer– figure out what’s the number one thing you do that creates cash flow and step it up and do it! Oh, yeah.

What Do You Tolerate?

Tuesday, 26th March 2013

What do you tolerate?

I am so glad you joined me on this adventure to learn how to grow your business your way! This concept means a lot to me because I have made all the mistakes and I know firsthand what a mess it can make in your business and your home life… not to mention how you feel about yourself if you don’t build your business with your own unique personality and style.

You see, when I first started building my company I didn’t really know what I was doing. I just knew that I wanted to help people and I seemed to be pretty good at it since people had been coming to me for help my whole life.

Maybe you are like me and really enjoy helping people. You like that feeling that you have assisted someone achieve something important in their lives. You made a difference. The only problem with starting a business like that is some people (like me) love saying YES to everyone and everything that comes along.
I found myself saying yes to everything, then feeling completely overwhelmed by too many things to do. And what happens with a lot of people, my children and my health were getting the short end of my energy and attention.

After experiencing some severe health conditions, I finally woke up and realized that I was hardly helping anyone, including my family and myself, the way I was going about it. I learned that by saying “Yes” to something I was saying. “No” to lots of something else.

I became much more careful of what I would agree to do. The funny thing about that was I had more time for my family, my health, doing what I wanted … and my business grew.

Let’s see what can happen for you.

An important step to knowing your own terms is to outline what you tolerate and what you won’t.

Take a good look at what you will say yes to and what you’ll say no to.

Ex: I will say no to have fear control my decisions in my personal or business life.

Ex: I will say yes to love and kindness that is offered me.

After you know your terms, have a great time living them!

Top 100 Life Coach Blogs To Follow In 2013

Friday, 22nd March 2013

Top 100 Life coach blogs to follow

An infographic by the team at CouponAudit


Coaching Your Networking Strategy: What is the Best Choice for your Time and Success

Friday, 22nd February 2013
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One of the best ways to grow your business is by networking.  The reason being, you can leverage your connections and be able to more easily reach your target market faster and with more credibility.  But how do you know which areas are the best places to network and how to best use your limited time and money?

The first step in determining the best places to network is by determining who your ideal client is.  When you have your niche boiled down, the second thing to do is to boil down where those type of people most hang out.

One of my client’s niches was stay-at-home-moms.  After we made an in-depth study of her business and where she wanted it to go, it became very clear that the best place for her to hang out was not her local BNI group, but McDonalds, specifically at the playground. She was able to sign up a lot of people every time she went to McDonalds and talked to the mothers and naturally introduced her product, which solved the problems of those type of moms.

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After you figure out where your potential clients hang out and have a regular practice of hanging out there too, the next category to look at in your networking is your associations.  I recommend that people fit in a group that is in their industry.  It is important to stay on top of the industry trends, to know what others are doing in the industry, and to have colleagues who are friends that you can turn to when you have too much work, or you have a work related questions.  So cultivating one group that is in your industry is a good idea.

Next comes the dicey area of workshops and seminars.  You can usually benefit from going to them, but if you go too much, you will be spending too much time on learning, traveling, and the expense of the seminar, and not enough on growing your business. Too many business owners get caught in the “one more seminar” addiction.  Before attending more seminars, here are some good questions to ask yourself:

*Can I afford it?

*Can I afford the time off and the time away from work?

*How much of what they are going to be teaching do I already know sufficiently?

*How many things did I apply from the last seminar?  Am I still planning to review those notes?

It is important to be extremely selective concerning  seminars.  They cost a lot of time, money and energy, and more often than not it is better to stay home.  But some of these seminars are absolutely business changing, if the reason you are going is to create more strategic partners and the seminars are where they hang out.  If that is your intention and you know that you are going to forge relationships, then it is worth the  sacrifices.

Networking can be a huge way to grow your business, and it also can be a huge time sucker.  It is critical when you make your networking plans that you lay them out in a format that will not only work for you, but is a strategic choice to get you where you want to be.


The Tricky Art of Finding the Right Business Model for Effective Leadership

Thursday, 14th February 2013

Photo: Shazz Mack on Flickr

One of the biggest problems in building your business comes with deciding which business model to incorporate. Choosing the right business model to grow your business to the next stage is tricky and can be challenging if you don’t look at the right questions to answer.

Some of the more obvious questions to ask yourself when pondering which business model you want to incorporate are:

  • Where do you want to go with your business?
  • How do you want the business to look?
  • What results do you want your business efforts to achieve?
  • What’s the fastest way to utilize the resources that you already have?

Those questions are good starting points. There are other questions that aren’t often looked at, questions centered around how the model you pick affects you personally. Questions like:

  • What do you want to spend most of your time doing?
  • What is the most important part to you of your business, in your opinion? e.g. The growth? The lifestyle? The work?
  • What is the most fulfilling part of running your business, and what would it look like if you did more of that?
  • How much do you want to work?
  • How much money do you want to make, versus how much time off do you want?

These personal questions aren’t always easy to answer truthfully, but they’re probably more important than the strategic questions.

For example, one of my clients was really struggling with working in general. After a closer look, she determined it was the marketing she was resisting. The more we snooped around, it became very clear that she thought she should become a renowned guru. She felt a lot of outside and inside pressure to do so. Clearly she had the skills, talent, and her company was positioned in a place where she could really take off, but she didn’t. She kept stopping herself.

Photo: Photographyxgrl on Flickr

Once we took a closer look, it became apparent that to become famous did not meet the needs of her top values. In fact it didn’t even come close. When we explored further, her need to have more white space—time that wasn’t scheduled, was more important. Time for her to do her art meant a lot to her, and the idea of getting consumed by her business halted her efforts to build the business.

After she determined that what she wanted was a handful of clients and some group meetings that she could facilitate, it was a snap to come up with a different business model that required much less time building the business. This realization got her the results that she wanted with a smaller amount of effort plus created a lot of time for her to do other things that brought her happiness.

When you ask yourself personal questions before growing your business to the next level, you will have more of the information that you need to pick the business model that works better for you and your lifestyle.

The Hero’s Journey of Overcoming Business

Friday, 8th February 2013

The Hero’s Journey by Joseph Campbell

The minute the modern day business owner begins a business, he/she enters on a valiant quest that is called the “hero’s journey”. The American scholar, Joseph Campbell, identified this journey while studying many different cultures throughout the world. Joseph was able to see that the same pattern occurred over and over again in myths, religion, and in storytelling. This pattern can also be extended to business.

If you learn what the steps are in the process of the quest as a business owner, you will have a better idea of where you are going in your journey and business and will be able to utilize the opportunities that are presented to you in the most effective way.

The first step of the journey that a newbie business owner takes is deciding to leave the ordinary world. The ordinary world is the way things are before the business owner sets out on the quest to change things. In this first stage, the soon-to-be owner is not happy with the way things are.

After the business hero travels through this world long enough, something happens that invites him/her to come on the adventure of business. The hero normally, at this point, looks at business building as hard, too many unknowns, and requiring super human strength. Typically the business hero doesn’t want to pursue the business that is calling him/her.

The business hero continues on with living, not really listening to the idea of building a business. But then he/she comes across a person, or class, or some other thing that helps teach what a person needs to know if they are going to start a business. Sometimes it comes in the form of a person who listens to the hero’s dreams and believes it possible for the owner to create.

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Eventually the business hero can take the way the normal everyday world is and he/she makes a step into the unknown of the business world. The call to make a change or to see what can be created just becomes too much, and our business hero needs to see what can be done.

Once the business has begun, that is when things become extra exciting. This is the time for the business hero to prove what he/she is made of. The hero will start encountering all sorts of opposition in the forms of: tests, enemies, and will also start making allies that are critical to form to have a chance of succeeding. The longer the business hero is in business, the better he/she becomes. The hero is now prepared for the future.

There comes a time in every business owner’s journey where the owner will need to go through the “ordeal”. In the hero’s journey pattern, the owner confronts his/her greatest fear in the journey, whether it will be success, or the death of the way he/she has run the business, or birthing new life into the business. At some point the business hero must face the challenge.

If the business hero makes it through all the challenges and tasks, then comes the reward of a successful business. At this point, there’s still the risk of being in danger, but there is also the satisfaction of huge accomplishment.

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Oftentimes the hero business person has to go through more obstacles and tests, until finally at the end, it is time for the business owner to return to where he/she started from, but this time with all the skills and knowledge needed in order to permanently transform the world. When the business hero reaches this part of the journey, there is much he or she can do to give back.

When the business owner knows what point of the hero’s journey he or she are at, it is much easier to get through that stage with the wisdom of having the broader picture of what is happening and what to expect.

What are your Core Values? A Milestone Reality Check

Wednesday, 30th January 2013

A huge problem many business owners have is not developing a clear enough idea of how achieving certain milestones will change everything for them in their company. An example of this is when my ex-husband and his business partner built a software training company. They started out in our trailer, shooting videos and editing them. This was a small production filled with a lot of excitement, dreams, and hopes of what this beginning company would be able to accomplish.

The first milestone this company actively worked toward was to be able to have their own office—trust me, our babies and I really looked forward to them achieving that milestone. As they worked for it, they talked about how cool it would be to not have to work in the middle of diaper changing, and to have a professional place to spark their talent, etc. The partners became very clear on what achieving that milestone would look like, feel like, and how it would overall impact their lives and their family’s lives.

As the company grew, the milestones changed and so did their ability to predict how achieving those milestones would impact them. One of the biggest milestones that they worked aggressively for was to get the company up to fifty employees. Within a few years they did achieve that major milestone, but that is when things started to unravel.

My ex became more and more discontent with work. He hadn’t realized that when they made the choice to reach fifty employees, he would be completely changing his work life and his role in it. The change seemed to sneak up on him. He went from loving work to hating it because instead of being independent, showing up to work whenever he wanted, and working crazy hours, being in charge of how and when he worked, suddenly there was a dress code—which he hated, and, to add to it, lots of people who turned to him for direction and guidance. He had become a manager instead of entrepreneur. His ability to be free and to work on his own schedule was interfered with by the fact other people needed and expected things from him. His dislike for reaching this milestone became so uncomfortable for him that he quickly looked for a way out of what he had worked so hard to create.

Many business owners make the same mistake my ex-husband made—setting a milestone and working really hard to achieve it before taking the time to figure out what that milestone will actually mean, not only to their business but also to them personally, and how it will impact what they will do every day.

So whether you are deciding to move from a mom and pop shop to a large business, or going from a local company to online, or maybe doing something in-between, it is critical that you finish your due diligence first and really picture, in fine detail, what achieving that milestone will do for you and your role in the company. Make sure that it is a milestone and a change that you really would want. And remember, experience and planning is part of your milestone journey.