Get Off The Flight To Nowhere

Monday, 28th June 2010


How many people would get on a plane where the pilot hasn’t yet determined where he or she wants to go other than joyriding? Not many. Yet a lot of individuals journey through their life without a clear outline for their life. Some are even clueless as to what direction they want to head.

How likely is it going to be for them to live the life of fulfillment and passion—a life without regret? If you are one of those people—aimlessly stomping through your day—stop. Get out a pen and start asking yourself:

  • What do I want to do before I die?
  • What do I want to accomplish?
  • What do I want to experience?
  • How do I want to be remembered?
  • What legacy do I want to leave?
  • What would I need to do, or what path would I need to be on, to accomplish it?
  • What is the purpose of my life?
  • What am I meant to contribute?
  • What gives my life meaning and value? Do I have enough of that in my life?

Answering these questions with thought and soul searching can be a great start on the path to clarity.

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Are You A Perfectionist?

Monday, 7th June 2010


Are you tired? Worn-out? Or just don’t feel like stepping it up? The problem may be that you have confused perfectionism with stepping up for your life purpose and living that life fully.

Many people pursue perfection in particular areas in their lives. Perfectionism is a long, maddening drive down a never-ending road for flawlessness; it provides no rest stops for mistakes, personal limitations or the changing of minds.

Perfectionism can cause feelings of anxiety, fear, and self-doubt; it can cripple self-esteem, stifle creativity, and put a stumbling block in the way of intimate friendships and love relationships. Ultimately, it can create or aggravate illnesses such as eating disorders, manic-depressive mood disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder and substance abuse.

Perfectionists are those who take accountability, responsibility, and self-discipline to an excess where the joy of doing a job well is zapped away. If you are constantly sloppy in your work, don’t do what you say, and rarely do your best work then perfectionism is not your problem. If you have self-discipline, do a job well, and can be happy with what you are able to accomplish then you too are not guilty of perfectionism. But if you drive yourself and those around you crazy because you can’t satisfy your own standards then there is a problem.

Complete this questionnaire to discover how perfectionistic you are.

  • I never do anything halfway; it’s all or nothing for me. Every time.
  • People who do things halfway make me angry or disgust me.
  • I believe there’s a certain way to do things and they should always be done that way.
  • I get angry when I make mistakes. I hate to make them and can hardly forgive myself.
  • I often procrastinate on starting projects. I seldom meet deadlines. Or if I do, I kill myself meeting them.
  • I feel humiliated when things aren’t perfect.
  • I don’t like to admit not knowing how to do something or to being a beginner. If I can’t do something well, I won’t do it.
  • People say I expect too much of myself. Or of them.
  • In my family, you could never completely measure up to expectations.
  • I’m hard on myself when I lose, even if it’s only a friendly game or contest.
  • I often withdraw from others and from group activities.
  • I don’t think work should be fun or pleasurable.
  • Even when I accomplish something, I feel let down or empty.
  • I criticize myself and others excessively.
  • No matter how much I have done, there’s always more I could do.
  • I don’t delegate often and when I do, I always double-check to make sure the job is done right.
  • I believe it is possible to do something perfectly and if I keep at it, I can do it perfectly.
  • Forgetting and forgiving is not something I do easily or well.

The more yes answers, the more likely it is that you have perfectionist tendencies.

There is a difference between excellence and perfection. Striving to be really good is excellence; trying to be flawless is perfectionism. If you’re concerned about your perfectionist behavior, don’t hesitate to contact me at and learn how to live a more peaceful life.

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Are You Living In Sync With Your Values?

Tuesday, 1st June 2010


To truly live a Step It Up™ life a person needs to be in alignment with their values. Only when a person is living and making decisions from a place of honoring their values will they experience true fulfillment.

Fulfillment in life is related to how well you are living in alignment with your values. Values are not morals or principles. They are the essence of who you are—not who you think you should be. For instance, money is not a value, whereas the things that money might buy, such as free time, risk-taking, and being of service are values. When you’re aligned with your values, you feel inner harmony, your choices are more easily made, and your actions are in accord with your true self. Take this quiz to see how well you are living in sync with your values.

  1. I have spent time clarifying my values and can easily articulate them.
  2. My values are my own. I have not simply adopted them from parents, teachers or other outside influences.
  3. I based my choice of occupation on my deepest values.
  4. My values are in alignment with the company I work for (or own).
  5. My business associates and I regularly examine how we are living up to our values and mission.
  6. I turn down money-making or status-building opportunities when they conflict with my values.
  7. In resolving disputes at work, I look beneath the apparent problem to see if values are being dishonored, and then I seek ways to honor them.
  8. Anyone looking at my life from the outside would see what I value.
  9. I use my values as a guidepost for making decisions. I ask if a particular choice would bring me closer to—or further from—a core value.
  10. When I feel upset, it’s almost always because my values are being trampled—either by me, someone else, or the situation.
  11. I am not easily swayed by others’ opinions when they conflict with my values.
  12. To remain open and flexible, I am willing to re-examine my values to determine whether something is still true for me.
  13. I find creative ways to honor all of my values—even when they conflict with one another.
  14. My work values are in harmony with my personal and relationship values.
  15. When I live according to my values, I feel satisfied and successful throughout my life.

If you answered false more often than true, you may wish to clarify your deepest values and bring your life into greater alignment with them. Please don’t hesitate to contact if you’d like support in doing this.

Stepping It Up™ to be in sync with your values is all about Stepping It Up™ to live a happy, complete life.