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How often do we go through the journey of life suffering needlessly, thinking we have to put up with uncomfortable situations, being convinced that things can’t change, and the best thing to do is just suck it up and go on? Unfortunately, more often than not, a lot of us are guilty of this. This habit has really come to the forefront for me as I worked with one of my clients.
She confided in me that she couldn’t have another child because she’d never be able to handle it. Curious by what she meant by that, I probed deeper. She then described this huge scenario that made having children seem dismal.
I told her, being a mother of eight, that if I had her belief system, I’d never want to have children either. The way she was looking at it made the child-raising experience seem really burdensome.
She laughed and said, “You’re right!”
We explored different ways she could look at the same situation, and then left it at that. Months later she came running up to me at a meeting. “I have to tell you something. I’m pregnant!” She radiated so much peace and happiness that I knew all the doubts had dramatically diminished. As the months go by, and I watch her in the pregnancy, I have witnessed a happy pregnant woman. She has totally embraced this new experience with enthusiasm and joy.
If she had never examined her thoughts and beliefs, she would have missed out on all this joy in her life. Wow. Are we missing out on our own joyful experiences because of not examining our current beliefs? How do we know what is an unhealthy belief and what are things that we can’t change and need to accept?
Perception….life is often all about perception. How wonderful that you were able to share your perception with someone and your perception was so strong, so different, she made a huge change in her own thinking which sounds like ultimately it changed her life.
Yes, having another child does have a way of completely changing a person’s life. I have found that shifting our perceptions just slightly can really make a big difference in how we feel about different things.