How Do You Live in Alignment with Your Commitments?

Monday, 28th September 2009


A question that often comes up when we talk about taking responsibility for your life is how do we keep our commitments? According to the self-improvement company Growth Climate, a lie is any attempt to deceive. If this is the case, then even if you say yes to something without the intention of doing it, or if you said yes then just don’t do it, you are deceiving others, and often times (and more importantly) yourself.

Am I doomed to be a liar?


Steps to Being in Alignment with Your Commitment

1.    Only say yes to things you intend to do. Sounds easy, but often times people say they will do something, while actually thinking maybe, just maybe they will, but knowing full well when it comes to the day of reckoning they can pull out one of their handy excuses or rationalizations.

  • “I didn’t have time.”
  • “I forgot.”
  • ”I didn’t know what you meant …”

2.    Only say yes to things that are in alignment with your values. This is common sense, but often people will say yes to people in leadership or friends, not wanting to hurt feelings, only to have the regret war rage inside of them later.

3.    Release yourself from the obligation. Okay, your committed to something, and you have no plans to do what you said what you said you’d do. It’s time to do the mature thing and tell the person that you committed to that you won’t fulfill that commitment.
Pleasant? Well no. But it is a whole lot easier than being held captive by guilt for years knowing you didn’t honor your word. Worse yet, we could suffer the consequences of being a person that can’t be trusted.

Taking responsibility for your actions and stopping the blaming, shaming, and rationalizing is the number one thing that you can do to transform your life from blah to the life you are capable of living. Making this transformation is an absolutely necessary skill that you must have if you are going to maintain long time royalty of living.

I would love to hear how you are going to take more responsibility today!

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