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Choose Easy Or Hard

Monday, 22nd June 2009

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Do you choose easy or do you choose hard? There is no right or wrong answer. I have friends who are quite proud that they choose easy. By their choice, they have a much smoother way of life. Also by this choice they choose the consequences, which will likely be to stay where they already are in their potential. If that is what they want, may they have the peace they seek.

If, on the other hand, you choose hard, you are looking at the possibility of being frustrated, down, stressed, and wondering what in the heck you’re doing—until the blessed gift of slipping into the zone arrives. Choosing hard isn’t for everyone. It requires a lot of determination, persistence, and grit. It also requires you to be a gambler because there is no guarantee that it will all turn out in the end.

The rewards can be huge. I submit—excluding divine intervention—that nothing great has ever been accomplished without choosing hard. There is a difference between choosing hard and deciding the task is hard. I am all about simplifying and not complicating things in order to reach objectives. In the long run choosing hard is, in fact, choosing easy. If I choose to make the hard decision of staying healthy, down the line, when others who didn’t make those choices are getting ill, I will be reaping the benefits of that hard beginning choice. The same goes in all areas of life, for everyone.

Successful Remarriage: Poor Mate Selection

Monday, 15th June 2009

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Many think that people who have been divorced should be good at choosing a mate. After all, if you have been divorced, you should have a clear idea of what you do and don’t want in a spouse, right? Wrong! In many instances, divorced people are prone to poor mate selection. Why? There are many reasons:

  • Loneliness
  • Hurried marriage
  • Incompatibility
  • Mental instability (self, other person, or both)
  • Too many unresolved issues from a previous marriage
  • Lack of self-esteem
  • Feeling as though they need a parent for their kids
  • Financial troubles
  • A need for the societal acceptance of being married
  • Fear of being alone
  • Fear of getting to know themselves

Is Your Environment Keeping You Back?

Monday, 8th June 2009

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Okay, how many of you have made a commitment to stay or get healthy, and do this by cutting back on your sugar? How many of you then proceeded to go to a party where they had the best desserts ever and the host asked if you wanted some. You saw others enjoying the temptation immensely and you decided to just have a taste?

Or, how about you decided that you were going to give up indulging in comfort food in exchange for a better choice. You did excellent for most of the day until the evening. You were starved. Didn’t have time to make dinner and the bag of whatever was sitting right there whispering that it was okay to eat.

These are all examples of how our environment can affect us. Environment and communities can have ample affects in many different areas of your life. It is not limited to food.

For example, I have one of the best mastermind groups ever. We meet together every two weeks on the phone from all over the United States, sometimes the world. This is a group of high functioning, top-of-their-industry, ambitious people.

I can get on the phone after having had a bad day—okay sometimes a bad week—hear their laughter and support, listen to their excitement for life, and I am no longer having a bad day. My hope is reignited and I am ready to tackle the obstacle that is weighing me down.

This is a great environment for me. What are your supportive environments? Often, people find these places with the people or associations that share a similar hobby. You can be weird to the rest of the world but it is a safe haven in a group where your hobby is cool.

Look at the people you surround yourself with and the type of surroundings you have. If they are not inspiring, are there things you can do to change it to become inspiring? How can you set up your environment and community to support you? Oftentimes, support can be found in servicing others in the place that works for your personality and gifts. How can you contribute and make it a win-win?