Respect for self and others is an active ingredient of a Step It Up life.

Tuesday, 24th February 2009


          One of the things that improved my second marriage was when I stopped treating my husband as if he was always wrong.  He did things so completely different than I did.  I mean, spending hours to make a buying decision.  What a waste of time!  Our marriage improved when I stopped looking at him as a time waster, but rather as someone who was being very thorough in his decisions—someone that I could learn and benefit from by not having to learn the hard way due to hasty decisions.

          The same goes with applying these principles to a broader spectrum, looking at all others who do things differently than me—what can I learn from them?  How can their way benefit me?   These simple questions have helped me to rise above my own stuff and truly see these people in a different light—a more correct light.  When I do this I see the snobbishness of my faulty assumptions. 

          Maybe you have learned how to have that kind of respect for others a long time ago.  Maybe you are way beyond that skill.  If you are, what other area can you improve in?  How can you deepen your respect for others? 

          One of the best ways is to stand by a person through difficult times and see the greatness that shines forth as they cope with the situation.  Or to look at the beauty that is displayed in something they do.  If you look hard enough there is always something that you can respect.

Accountability and responsibility is where it’s at.

Monday, 16th February 2009

       stuff  As a mother and an employer there are two characteristics I praise above all others.  They are accountability and responsibility.  When a person is straight with you about their actions, when you can trust that they will do what they say they will do, then true comfort and trust can be built.  Give me a child or an employee with these characteristics and I will give you someone that is easy to rely on and who will be successful in many areas of their lives.


Childhood Dreams Come True

Wednesday, 11th February 2009

I wanted to share a success of one of  my client’s.  It is so exciting to watch people to step into their dreams.



When I was 8 years old, I took a modeling class.  And let me tell you, I had a kick butt runway walk – even then!  As kids, we dabbled in the entertainment industry, being involved in commercials and movies.  As a teenager I totally wanted to model and even went to an agency!  I was instructed to lose an inch off my hips and come back.  Though I never did, I have thought about modeling for years and gone through phases of enthusiasm… but never really done anything about it.

Until now.  In November, I started working with life coach Lisa J. Peck, the Step It Up Queen.  The weekend before, this urge to model had been rekindled so we talked about it.  She told me how she could hear the color in my voice whenever I talked about modeling and encouraged me to make time for and pursue my childhood dream.  It’s been amazing how Lisa’s encouragement has helped me move forward these last few months, not just with modeling, but life in general.  With her help, I’ve made incredible progress in trusting my instincts, living with confidence and actively pursuing my dreams.  I live with greater clarity and direction.

Here’s some of my favorite shots from some recent photo shoots… more to come!

Photo care of Robert Parker

Photo care of Robert Parker

Photo care of Chris Blackburn

Photo care of Chris Blackburn

Photo care of Chris Blackburn

Photo care of Chris Blackburn

Photo care of Justin Hackworth

Photo care of Justin Hackworth

The spice of Step It Up Living is gratitude.

Monday, 2nd February 2009

My daughter was sixteen months old, dressed in a light pink felt coat that flared.  Her long, light baby hair twisted in slight curls that spilled down half her back, and her bangs were pulled up in a twisty on top of her head to keep out of her bright blue eyes.  With her first few steps in New York she took to the city like she owned the place.  She trotted down the street, ignoring the bitter wind, smiling and waving at everyone that she passed.


I followed closely behind, shocked, as one hardened New Yorker after another stopped their busy rush forward to look at my child, take in her wave and smile back. 


 “Oh, how cute.” 


 “What a doll.”  


 “Well, hello there.”


The show didn’t end on the streets.  We made our way into the small restaurants filled with divine-smelling foods.  My daughter perched herself up on the highchair and smiled, waving at anyone and everyone whose eye she could catch.  Then, as the music swept through the room she’d wave her arms and dance to the beat to receive more gushing and laughter.  I saw no one resist at least smiling at her act.


Why did my baby bring so much happiness to a place that is known for its business and rushed attitude?  Why did everyone respond to her no matter what race or language they spoke?


I have a theory.  There at the toddler stage my daughter had fully embraced gratitude.  She was living in the moment.  She loved life.  She loved any and every flickering moment of attention she caught.  If she was unable to catch someone’s eye she didn’t let this bother her.  She kept trying until she did catch their eye and then when she got the desired response, she would light up and be grateful.


She was grateful for life.  She totally embraced the living of it and people recognized that joy and recognized when someone was grateful for their natural response.  It only took a moment of attention for her to light up and the people who gave it were immediately rewarded with the best she could give back.  This brought happiness to both her and them.


I often wonder if we could be grateful for the small things—like the ability to trot down the street, or a smile, or to be able to rock to the music—how much happier would we be?  When we stop and enjoy the little things, our lives are enriched.