Commandment 9: Be Patient  Do not expect an instant bond. Initially, you may experience growing pains when you bring two families together. It takes time to establish boundaries, rules, and roles. Realize that there will be times when you’ll be highly frustrated. In most situations, if you are consistent and continue to make adaptations, the children will respond favorably. They will realize this marriage is for real.  If you are consistent and continue to make adaptations, the children will respond favorably.  

Commandment 10: Maintain Appropriate Marital Boundaries  In every remarriage situation, it’s critical that the two partners maintain their personal boundaries. As you create new interactions it’s easy to fall back into old patterns. You may find yourself sharing information and frustrations with your children. They may form ideas or beliefs that can hurt your new marriage. Make sure that you maintain healthy boundaries between you, your new partner and your children.

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