RSS Lisa's BlogReturning to their Abusers
On average, abused women are returning to their abuser seven times before leaving them for good. Why is this happening? Many will say because the victim will not stand up for herself, or on a subconscious level, she likes being a victim.
The truth is that her community is failing her. Many of these women are ending up homeless on the street, or having their abuser take her children from her, or have extreme religious, social and money pressures to go back and make it work. These women don’t have a safety net they can rely on, little opportunity to earn enough to support her family, and little or no training on how to stand on her own.
Until society stops brushing her off to the side, blaming her and becoming a community where she and her family can find redemption, the spiraling social problems that come from this will continue.
Add in an abuser’s skill at reducing the ties she has with her family/friends and the fear of admitting what’s happening, especially to others and, well, an abuser can have a pretty sweet deal going.